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“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.” @robinwilliams ID: Quote centred in a sans-serif font with clean, soft letterforms. Instagram handle is bottom centre in same font as quote. My name is be
🌲You can love others deeply without losing love for yourself. 🌲You are not required to abandon yourself to love someone else. 🌲You can protect your heart in tandem with loving another. •There’s a space between self-love and loving so
“Neurons that fire together, wire together” (Carla Shatz). ID: Quote centred in a sans-serif font with clean, soft letterforms. Instagram handle is bottom centre in same font as quote. My name is behind handle in a modern, handwritten ca
It’s the loss of the possibility… …the anticipation of… …the aiming for. It’s when the option of a future person, place, or thing is removed. It’s how we internalize that loss, the meaning of the lo
➡️Hi! I’m Michael Kluba, and I’m a registered social worker, certified s-x addiction therapist, certified multiple addiction therapist, and an EMDR-trained clinician in my solo, integrative, virtual private therapy practice. 🌍I’m
We might also withdraw socially as a form of self-protection. Internalized shame is associated with: ➡️Our thinking patterns. Common core beliefs are “I am too much,” “I am not good enough,” and “I am unloveable,&rdquo
•When addiction is present in a family with two adult caretakers, and when one caretaker is addicted to a behaviour and/or a substance, typically neither caretaker will have the capacity to support each other in a way couples do. •The care
You can go decades before realizing that you were never in the driver’s seat of your own life. A few years of conditioning can set the stage for many years of masking, self-abandonment, the fawn-response. The thing is though, your conditioni
Masking is an adaptive strategy to suppress our authentic self to fit in, to avoid judgement or oppression, or to stay safe. Masking can be conscious or unconscious. Chronic masking is more common amongst individuals with diverse identities. ID: A
🧠Recognizing who our people are, and whose values are aligned with - or support - ours is often a major and ongoing component of recovery. Our nervous system responds, and reacts, correspondingly. 👥We’re challenged to assert, and respect, b
Many adults with experiences of enmeshment with a parent also experience long-term adverse responses involving: •attachment and relationships •mental illness •chronic physical illness •compulsive behaviours •substance use Th
•It’s Thanksgiving long weekend in Canada. •To anyone celebrating, avoiding, or something in between, we’re beginning holiday season. •This time feels warm, close, and nurturing for some, but even though it’s often
Less differentiated can look like: •Their sense of self shifts depending on what others think or feel. •They have difficulty tolerating disagreement, criticism, or disapproval. •They often over-accommodate others or, alternatively, exp
Some strategies that can help: -Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) -Somatic experiencing (SE) -Dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) -Reparenting and inner child work -Internal family systems (IFS) -Couples therapy Some things for
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