🔸Disclaimer: This perspective of recovery is within a specific context. Recovery can be defined in various ways, dependent on the approach you and your support network are using. #recovery #addictionrecovery #addictiontherapist #emotionalhealth #trigger

🔸Emotional absence can be harder than physical absence. It confuses the psyche - how do you grieve someone who still sits beside you? •@stefanossifandos #safety #relationship #nervoussystemhealth #interpersonalneurobiology #intimacy

🌅You matter too. #youmatter #selfworth #selflove #youareenough #psychotherapist

🔸Sometimes our healing is ‘from,’ instead of ‘with,’ them. #enmeshment #familysystems #griefjourney #recoveryispossible #loneliness

🔸Yelling at someone, shaming them, and/or forcing them to do something they do not want - or are unable - to do, only exacerbates the not doing it. •Quote by: @bessel_van #trauma #shame #interpersonal #dysregulation #safety

🔸The thing is, the one who ‘plays’ the victim almost always was ‘once’ the victim. However, this does not serve as a justification to repeat the trauma. #traumarepetition #victim #therapistthoughts #traumarecovery #patterns

🔸When deprivation is compulsive… 🔸We can DO a lot of things compulsively, and to our detriment. ➡️We can NOT do something in a compulsive way too, and it’s often about safety. #safety #control #deprivation #emotionalhealth #sexualhealth

🔸There may not have been anything wrong with how you asserted your boundary, so it’s not that you ‘tried to.’ You DID. You said what you needed to say. 🔸Their response (or reaction) is likely more to do with the shame they experienced, as a result of being held accountable, and not having the skills to regulate their shame-flooded nervous system. 🔸In some contexts, but not all, you might centre your efforts into feeling the grief you so desperately don’t want to feel, instead of pouring your energy into the semantics of your boundary. 🔸What belief(s) do you carry about yourself as a result of their response to your boundary? •”I am unloveable.” •”I am not good enough.” •”I am powerless.” 🔸Feel your grief (I know it’s excruciating; nothing about this is easy), and focus on your belief patterns. #boundaries #loss #beliefs #emdr #shame

🔸Addiction impacts everyone. Nobody is immune. #addiction #recovery #traumahealing #painrelief #psychoeducation

🔸Some things can’t be fixed. #griefjourney #heartbreak #acceptance #losses #surrender •Quote by: @iamdavidkessler